Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Update #20 from Rob and Linda

Hello everyone,

Sorry it has taken so long to update, but things have been a little crazy. Steve has developed a couple of nasty infections and it seems like he is just exhausted fighting them off. The doctors have changed all existing medical appliances, except the feeding tube, to eliminate the possibility that one of them could be causing the infections. They have identified the organisms and have Steve on an aggressive antibiotic regimen. Obviously Steve was not very responsive yesterday.

That said, Steve had a very restful night as reported by Danielle. I relieved her at 8:00AM and can also report that the antibiotics seem to be working. He is not coughing as much as before, his white blood cell count has returned to normal and his fever is down. Now, Steve will start again the recovery process to consciousness.

As I looked at my e-mail today my sister-in-law, Gail, another of the many unsung supporters that have made this ordeal bearable, sent me this passage. It is so moving I want to post it here;

READ THIS LET IT REALLY SINK IN - THEN CHOOSE .
John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, John was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation. Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
He replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or ... you can choose to be in a bad mood I choose to be in a good mood." Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or...I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or... I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy," I protested. "Yes, it is," he said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live your life."
I reflected on what he said. Soon hereafter, I left the place we worked to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that he was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, he was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw him about six months after the accident.
When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins...Wanna see my scars?" I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter," he replied. "Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or...I could choose to die. I chose to live."
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?" I asked He continued, " ..the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read 'he's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?" I asked. "Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me," said John. "She asked if I was allergic to anything 'Yes, I replied.' The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, 'Gravity'." Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
He lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude... I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34. After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. You have two choices now: 01. Delete this 02. Forward it to the people you care about. You know the choice I made.

I feel this is really defines "positive thought" and that it is really about all you great people that read this blog. We can choose to support Steve or not. Know this, our family believes that Steve has made his progress because of the insurmountable support of positive thoughts and prayers that have come from you.

Thanks,
Rob

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am so glad that the doctors have found effective anti-biotics to combat Steve's infection. After the course of treatment, remind them to give Steve something pro-biotic through his feeding tube to rebuild the good bacteria in his system.

I am very happy Steve is home.

Kathryn

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing this beautiful story and updating us on Steve's progress. There are a lot of people, who never even met Steve, but who pray for him every day. Keep your spirits high.
Yelena

Uncle Don said...

Steve,

Remember those famous words from Stewie Griffin (Family Guy).
"Victory is mine!"
I know that it will just be a matter of time before you say these very same words!

Much Love!